In today’s world, many of us are blessed to have close relationships with our parents and grandparents. They may not be the only two who have ever lived on our planet, but they are still our relatives, even if we have not spoken with them in years. Many of us have searched long and hard for ways to reconnect with our long-lost relatives, and some have succeeded while others have failed miserably.
When a family member contacts you, it can be an exciting yet confusing experience. While almost everyone feels good that the long-lost family ties are being renewed, there are bound to be feelings of both excitement and fear.
Why Are They Contacting You?
Have you been contacted by people claiming to be family you lost touch with years ago? They have been searching for you for years. They want to know if you are alive and well, and what has been happening in your life since they last spoke with you. They want to know how you are. They even want to know how you are feeling. Are you happy? Are you sad? Are you in love? Are you lonely?
The feelings when you found your biological family.
When families are separated, there is a good chance that they will eventually reunite, but that is not always the case. Some families do not even have the chance to reunite, and that is the case for some parents who found their children after years had passed. When you meet your long-lost biological family members, you experience a mix of emotions: excitement, joy, and relief, but also sadness and regret that so much has been missed. Then, as you get to know one another, there is even more of a flood of emotions: love, confusion, anger, and envy.
It is always exciting to reconnect with long-lost relatives, but the happiness can quickly become overwhelming when it is a long-lost biological relative. Your first instinct may be to reach out to your relatives, but it can make for an awkward conversation when you find out you’ve both been estranged for decades. However, if your long-lost relatives reach out to you, remembering past conversations and previous connections can make it easier to bridge the divide.
If you are someone in these circumstances, you may have difficulty adjusting to this new reality. A biological family member may be closer or different than you were led to believe, and even if they are still family, their new life might not fit with yours. Your identity may be challenged, and you may have feelings of abandonment, uncertainty, guilt, and anger. But staying in touch with your biological family may be beneficial, and your emotional health and well-being may depend on it.
There is a sense of family that many of us grow up with. Many of us have memories of family gatherings, vacations, and celebrations. And, as the years pass and we become adults, the feeling of being part of a family fades. As a young person, however, the feeling of being connected to everyone else is very real. Reconnecting with a long-lost family member could almost feel like finding yourself again.
When you meet a long-lost biological family, it is an emotional time for all concerned. At first, you wonder how they will react, if they will accept you and if they will even want you around. When they meet you, it may be like you are strangers. They may not recognize or remember you or act like they just saw a ghost. But with time, bonds get rebuilt. It is like when you meet someone new and start out as strangers. After a while, bonds get built. You learn new things about each other, and over time you become friends, and you can create new and lasting memories with them.